Self-acceptance and loving who you are is one of the most important things in our lives. Unfortunately, sometimes we forget, ignore it or let others interfere.
I’m someone who has struggled with accepting myself for who I am and what I look like. I was born with something called Ectrodactyly. Put it in simpler terms, I wasn’t born with all my fingers and toes. This isn’t something that I could control and yet it’s taken me almost my whole life to be okay with it.
It hasn’t been the easiest journey. People are quick to judge and easily startled. I’ve had set backs where someone’s words, actions or even someone just staring has gotten to me. Having to deal with this as a little kid was hard and it’s still not easy as an adult. There are times where I don’t like to look at myself in the mirror. I’ve wished so hard that I could look like someone else and shoe shopping is a nightmare!
This isn’t something that I can change but I can change how I view it. Like I said before, it isn’t something I could control, but it is something that I cannot let control ME. I realize that I am more than my “condition”. I’m more than how I look. And I am in general, more. It’s taken a lot of support and love from my family and friends to get me where I am today. Even still, I have challenging days. But even starting with saying little things like “you are beautiful”, “you’re amazing” or “you are enough” can go a long way. I’ve learned that talking about how you are feeling and getting it out there is all a part of the process.
Trust me, I know it’s not always easy to love yourself but it is so, so worth it. Going through the journey of loving yourself and accepting who you are makes you not only an amazing person, but it makes you so much stronger! Take time for yourself, make self-care apart of your routine, talk to your friends and family and let your feelings out! We all struggle sometimes. Men, women, children and adults. Life is hard and it can bring us down sometimes – BUT – as long as you can get back up, reflect and grow from the experience, you’re going to be just fine!
In the words of RuPaul herself, “if you can’t love yourself, how in the heck can you love somebody else?”